I am really trying to at least finish reading this book before New Years, if not finish posting about it. I'm a chapter or so ahead of what I'm posting at the moment.
Mostly this is due to the fact that one of my Christmas presents was
American Jesus by Stephen Prothero and I'm going to break protocol and read that one next rather than throw it into the Bag of Books! So I'm really looking forward to getting to start it but I need to finish Mere Christianity first!
Another of my presents, by the by, was
In the Garden of Beasts by Erik Larson, thanks to my fabulous Big Sis! That book is on Murdock so I'm reading it at the gym. I just started it, but it's already very engrossing. *blinks* I've just realised this means I'm not currently reading any fiction books. *waits to see if the world will come to an end* So far so good!
So let's see...we're up to Pride.
"There is
one vice of which no man in the world is free; which every one in the
world loathes when he sees it in someone else; and of which hardly
any people, except Christians, ever imagine that they are guilty
themselves. I have heard people admit that they are bad-tempered, or
that they cannot keep their heads about girls or drink, or even that
they are cowards. I do not think I have ever heard anyone who was not
a Christian accuse himself of this vice. And at the same time I have
very seldom met anyone, who was not a Christian, who showed the
slightest mercy to it in others. There is no fault which makes a man
more unpopular, and no fault which we are more unconscious of in
our-selves. And the more we have it ourselves, the more we dislike it
in others.
"The vice I am talking of is Pride or
Self-Conceit: and the virtue opposite to it, in Christian morals, is
called Humility. You may remember, when I was talking about sexual
morality, I warned you that the centre of Christian morals did not
lie there. Well, now, we have come to the centre. According to
Christian teachers, the essential vice, the utmost evil, is Pride."
And that's because...pride was the first sin, right? According to most Christian thinking at any rate. Pride was what caused Lucifer to refuse to bow down and serve humanity, who he saw as being lesser than himself and all the other angels, and/or to believe that he could sit on God's throne.
"if you want to
find out how proud you are the easiest way is to ask yourself, `How
much do I dislike it when other people snub me, or refuse to take any
notice of me, or shove their oar in, or patronise me, or show off?'
The point is that each person's pride is in competition with every
one else's pride."
I think that's true, to a point. But then you also can't allow yourself to be a doormat either. There are people out there who don't respect opinions, etc. and will just move you around like a doll if you let them. Users. Do they maybe have an overdose of pride? I think so. But you not having any pride/spine isn't a solution either. Sometimes the scenarios Lewis lists are clashes of egos(pride). Other times they're other people being assholes and/or manipulative.
"Pride
gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of
it than the next man."
"Pride is competitive by its very nature: that is why it goes
on and on. If I am a proud man, then, as long as there is one man in
the whole world more powerful, or richer, or cleverer than I, he is
my rival and my enemy."
"Other vices may sometimes bring people
together: you may find good fellowship and jokes and friendliness
among drunken people or unchaste people. But pride always means
enmity—it is enmity. And not only enmity between man and man, but
enmity to God. In God you come up against something
which is in every respect immeasurably superior to yourself. Unless
you know God as that—and, therefore, know yourself as nothing in
comparison—you do not know God at all. As long as you are proud you
cannot know God. A proud man is always looking down on things and
people: and, of course, as long as you are looking down, you cannot
see something that is above you."
I think it's obvious but I should point out that there is a difference between Pride and pride. And Lewis does make that point later on. There's the Pride that he talks about above, where it drives you to be in competition with, basically, everything and everyone under the sun because you need to be better than they are in every respect in order to feel good about yourself and then there's pride in things. We'll talk about that in a bit.
Lewis believes that people who are clearly Prideful cannot ever be truly religious. They 'worship an imaginary God' according to him and are in reality being misled by the devil. Or their own egos, since we know how much I hate blaming everything that goes wrong in a persons life (or the world) on the poor devil.
"They
theoretically admit themselves to be nothing in the presence of this
phantom God, but are really all the time imagining how He approves of
them and thinks them far better than ordinary people: that is, they
pay a pennyworth of imaginary humility to Him and get out of it a
pound's worth of Pride towards their fellow-men. I suppose it was of
those people Christ was thinking when He said that some would preach
about Him and cast out devils in His name, only to be told at the end
of the world that He had never known them. And any of us may at any
moment be in this death-trap. Luckily, we have a test. Whenever we
find that our religious life is making us feel that we are good—above
all, that we are better than someone else—I think we may be sure
that we are being acted on, not by God, but by the devil. The real
test of being in the presence of God is, that you either forget about
yourself altogether or see yourself as a small, dirty object. It is
better to forget about yourself altogether."
I totally get this. I didn't think it at the time, but when I was covering I did fall into this category. I said that I wasn't judging the women who didn't cover, but I did. Not always consciously, but I did. I thought that I was better, closer to God than they were for doing so and that they just needed to be educated and then they'd see how wrong they were. I felt very good about being so humble.
The funny thing is this: Lewis points out that quite often people use Pride in order to overcome lesser sins. Cowardice, lust, anger, etc. have all been overcome by an appeal to Pride, that they are beneath someone's dignity.
"The
devil laughs. He is perfectly content to see you becoming chaste and
brave and self-controlled provided, all the time, he is setting up in
you the Dictatorship of Pride—just as he would be quite content to
see your chilblains cured if he was allowed, in return, to give you
cancer. For Pride is spiritual cancer: it eats up the very
possibility of love, or contentment, or even common sense."
Okay. On to the lower case 'pride' which is not the same as the sin of Pride.
Lewis says:
1. Pleasure in being praised is not Pride. Feeling good that you've been told you did a good job is a good and natural thing. Because the pleasure comes not from feeling that you are superior inherently in and of yourself, but in pleasing someone that you wanted to please. The trouble, where this goes from pride to Pride, is when you go from thinking 'I've pleased them' to thinking 'How great am I that I've done all of this?' And the more you delight in yourself and the less in the praise, the worse you are. At the point when you feel completely self-satisfied all the time and don't care at all what anyone else thinks, ever, because you know that you're the best thing out there then you've hit rock bottom.
2. Pride in family, school, regiment, workplace. Lewis says that it all depends on what the person means when they say they're proud of such things. If they mean that they have warm admiration for them, then that's right and fine. You should feel good about the institutions that you join and participate in. But if they mean that they're somehow better than anyone else because they 'come from' such and such a family, or they went to such and such a school then that has gone over into the area of Pride.
3. God doesn't forbid Pride because He's offended by it. God wants to make people humble in order to make the moment possible where you can meet him. Lewis believes that you cannot get near God and not be humbled by it. (Which I totally agree with. If you were to really meet something so much more powerful than yourself, the only sane reaction is a realization of the very smallness of your own being.) So God forbids Pride because it is such the opposite of human nature in relation to Himself. Pride will not, according to Lewis, ever get you anything or where good in the long run, especially not in the spiritual sense. And since that's the ultimate end of everything, to die and go before God, that's the biggest thing to focus on.
4. A truly humble person is not one that is always telling you that they're nobody. It is someone who you would never even think of in that way. Someone who is cheerful and smart who people just generally like.
