On today's edition of 'Wait, Wait, What?' we have the recent comment by one Mr. Pat Robertson. You may have heard the name before. He was some little following among a certain portion of Christians. And a television show. So, well, we know how I feel about him automatically.
Recently a caller apparently asked Mr. Robertson what advice he should give to a friend who had started seeing another woman after his wife began to degenerate due to Alzheimer's. The response was to say that, "I know it sounds cruel, but if he's going to do something, he should
divorce her and start all over again, but make sure she has custodial
care and somebody looking after her."
And...yeah. It doesn't just *sound* cruel, it *is* cruel.
Not having watched the show (I would sooner carve out my own eyes with a spoon), I'm going to make a guess at the 'well-meaning' interpretation of what was said. It's all in the question that was asked. One could argue that Robertson was saying; if the man is going to run around on his wife it is better for him to divorce her and start dating again rather than commit adultery.
Okay. I can, assuming that this is what was meant, sort of see where he's coming from. Guess what. It's still shitty advice.
Even his co-host apparently brought up the marriage vows. You know, the traditional ones. The ones that end with, 'In sickness and in health, til death do us part'. Those. Which, as an Evangelical Christian (I'm pretty sure. Like I said; spoon, eyes before I watch this man.) is what he ascribes to with the force of rabid faith. One man, one woman, no divorce, til death do they part. His response was, "If you respect that vow, you say 'til death do us part. This is a kind of death."
No, death is a kind of death. This is a degenerative, fatal illness that is affecting someone that you love. It's a hellish thing even watching it from the outside. I can't imagine being *in* that marriage. It's stressful in the extreme. But does that mean that you stop loving the person? That you should abandon them for something easier? No. It's a shitty, shitty thing to do. It's even worse for someone who is supposed to be some moral leader to go around telling people that it's okay. He does say to 'check with an ethicist' who is not him, so he gets points for that. But he's supposedly some really Christian man. And this does not hit the 'good man' vibe with me, let alone Christ-like.