Tuesday, June 23, 2009

Hijab, Shoes and Interviews That Make Me Scream

Still not the 'post o'content'. I'm still working on that one. Trying to make it make sense, I guess. Sometimes that's harder than it sounds like it should be. :)

Okay, Amber playing around again.

Normal Amber:
Um, okay, I like this shirt. Some people, who all acknowledge that I shall never be a fashion maven, claim it too spotty. Whatever. This is why, if they want to critique my clothes, they shouldn't let me shop alone.

*sigh* al-Amira hijab. I want to like you, I really do. You are quick and easy. But you look funny, I have to wear a high-collared shirt to make sure there aren't any gaps, and, well, I still think it looks funny.

Shayla. I actually got this scarf at Wal-mart. Hmm...previous attempt, people mentioned that I needed underscarves that were colored to bring the color closer to my face. (My underscarves are all white at the moment). So, I found a $1 pack of wide stretchy headbands. I used the pink one to demonstrate, but it goes on over one of the white underscarves, and voila! Color! Also, boob coverage, with the shayla and all.

Boobs. Um, not to put too fine a point on it, but mine are not small. I do my best to down play them - I wear sports bras/tops under my clothes as much as possible, because regular bras tend to accentuate the breasts, which is, I suppose what they're designed to do. But it makes keeping shirts, etc. modest difficult.

What I'm calling khimar. If I'm using the word wrong, someone please correct me. This is what I wore out in public the other day. Two things: 1) Am I deficient somehow? How do you pin the scarf tightly and with the pin not just...being there, obvious? I cannot seem to manage this! 2) Okay, again with the breasts. This is a regular sized khimar, bought from HijabGirl. My understanding is that a part of the overall hijab is that the scarf is meant to cover your chest. Natch. I can still see the curve of my breasts to either side of the scarf. Is it because I'm built like a mack truck? I mean, I wear loose clothing, but there's only so much I can do! *waggles* I want my abaya & jilbab! I want to see if that makes a difference!

Coffee Catholic style! Meaning, a little hair showing, no underscarf. Um...I think it works better with bangs, which I don't have. Otherwise you get this, Giant Forehead of Doom!

And now for shoes! Because you all care about shoes, don't you? These are some of my favorite, not every day kind of shoes.

First up, spikey blue shoes! My love for these shoes is unending. I reserve them for special occasions.

Franken-shoe! I can't, actually, drive in these. They're too thick to push the pedals because of the heels.

Um...'shmex' boots. I do love these boots, but uh, yeah. I don't wear them at all anymore because of the way I walk in them, it's sort of counter productive to the whole...covering up thing.

Clunky oriental patterned sandals! Again, deep love for these shoes. I have flat flip flops in the same pattern too, but because I am short, I like these better.

And now interview of head banging irritation:

One of the women at work gave me her copy of the June 19, 2009 issue of Entertainment Weekly because it had Transformers on the cover, and she knows I'm looking forward to the movie. It was an interview with the 'love interest' of the movie, Megan Fox. Here're the highlights that pissed me off:

(After revealing that she'd been an extra in a scene in Bad Boys II - dancing in a bikini in a club, under a water fall)

EW: Wait, what?

Fox: Yeah, was still in ninth grade. I liked it at the time, because I was getting out of school. So I was like, F--- yeah, I don't care! And I got paid extra because if you allow them to put water on you, you get paid extra. I got probably $600.

EW: How did you feel about being sexualized like that when you were 15?

Fox: I thought it was awesome. I was going to a Christian high school and I wasn't a feminist yet. I hadn't sat back and analyzed society yet. I was 15! I just did what I was told to do.

EW: What did your parents think?

Fox: My mom was with me! I was always ubersexual, so she wasn't shocked. I was wearing the smallest clothes I could find. I would go to the mall like that - in a short, short skirt and a giant wedge heel.
(some mention of her stealing her mothers car when she was fourteen...movie stuff....)

EW: You've only done a couple of movies, so you're still mostly known as a sex symbol rather than an actress.

Fox: It doesn't bother me. I don't know why someone would complain about that. That just means that the bar has been set pretty low. So I can only be an overachiever. I think all women in Hollywood are known as sex symbols. That's what our purpose is in this business. You're merchandised, you're a product. You're sold and it's based on sex. But that's okay. I think women should be empowered by that, not degraded.

Emphasis mine, above. *head desk* *These* are the people that our kids want to emulate, because it's the way our society works! *growls* I have words, but they're impolite and, you know, cussing.

But, you know, frak it, women, people, who want to be modest, wear niqab, hijab, capps, whatever! We're oppressed! We're being objectified by covering ourselves up?! *makes little splorfly sounds* So much insanity.


  1. leaders of 'fashion' that we are ... (snarf) will always be mocked by the crowd... hold head in modest position and just let them get on with it....

    am loving ALL the shoes.... and I do believe on closer inspection I too have that very same scarf purchased from our local Asda Wal-Mart store....

    (I do have to be careful when lighting the Shabbat candles - not to lean too far forward and get the tassels aflamed :0D )

  2. Ahavha,

    *lol* My plan is to be so far off the 'fashion' curve that eventually, I'll be fashionable. It has to happen at some point. :)

    Mmmm...my shoes are awesome, are they not?

    Yup. I got most of my long scarves from Wal-mart or Target.

    Funny thing, for Easter Vigil, I was going to wear a shayla style scarf that went really well with my outfit, and then in the run through we found out that we'd be carrying lit candles as we processed in. I switched to a tiechel so that I didn't light myself on fire accidentally. :)

  3. Why don't you try buying some fabric and making a khimar yourself? Then you can size it as big as you want.

    *sigh* It's horrible that someone could be okay with being objectified. I've seen the trailer for the film, which has her with one knee on the seat of a motorcycle and leaning over the handlebars. Her shorts are so short, part of her backside in showing. It's terrible!

    I'll take my hijab, abaya, and niqab any day, thank you.

    By the way, how can I get my photo icon to show next to my comments? I can't figure it out! (I'm such a techno dummy...)

  4. Heather,

    Oh, you assume I can sew. *lol* I'm still learning, though that's a good idea, and khimar's so simple... :) Also, why interject your logic in my whining? ;)

    Oh, the whole article was horrible. I actually was convinced that I had to have read those parts wrong and reread them, just in case. Nope. They said what they said.

    If you think her clothes in the commercial were bad, you should see some of the pictures of her at premieres, etc. One dress, the mag even said 'there's not enough of it to rate - we're giving her an incomplete' - It had a slit up one side that went *all* the way up, and little cut outs on the dress. Awful.

    *thumbs up* I completely agree.

    As an aside, I'd love to hear about how you became a non-Muslim niqabi. :)

    Your icon shows up for me. If you clock on the 'comments' button instead of the subject of the post, the user icons appear next to the posts.

  5. I like seeing your shoes and your various scarfs. The Shayla is particularly pretty, imo.

    UGH about that interview. I don't know why some women like being cheap like that. :-/

  6. Beautiful scarves, the pink underscarf looks also pretty.

  7. The white one with the pink is just gorgeous with your skin tone.

  8. Susanne,

    Thanks! Oddly enough my favorite shoes out of those would have to be the franken-shoes, but where do you wear those to, really? But they're so clompy!

    I know, the interview was just... ugh!

  9. Lisa,

    I'm trying to learn to embrace color! I spent a long time 'goth', and then I went to earth tones, so now, color!

  10. I don't look good with too much forehead showing either. Mine is pretty big anyway. I'm not sure what it is with the al amira hijabs, but they don't work for me either. If you want a presewn that is longer and works better look for a elbow or hip length khimar that is made of a stiffer fabric.
    You can get them in length ranging from elbow all the way down to hip or ankle. You can also pull the sewn part down so its not on your head and wear it like a cape with another scarf on your head.

  11. Stacy,

    I feel like I have a billboard for a forehead in that picture. :)

    I've come to the conclusion that al-amira don't work for me because I am not a delicate flower. I come from German/Polish/Scottish stock, and it shows. I used to beat up guys, for pete's sake! The longer scarf on the al amira doesn't come near to covering as much on me as it does on delicate little people, and I think that's my problem.

    Oohh...hmm...I shall ponder that option, thanks!


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